Okay okay, I know I might be sounding like the Girl Who Cried Blog Updates, but I am serious this time. I have felt a creative void ever since I put event design on permanent hiatus… then life took over. I put this blog on the back burner because I didn’t IMMEDIATELY have the content I wanted to share and wasn’t finding the time to create that content either. Creating makes me happy. I fell into a sad place and it has taken me a while to get out. I am VOWING to make my happiness a priority, and that means really focusing on this blog as my outlet.
I am also going to be starting a page on “natural living.” I’ve been experimenting with making body wash and eating more natural; I would love to share what I have!
Thank you for continuing this journey with me.
Remember that great idea I had about coming up with a consistent post every Tuesday? Maybe I should have tested it out before proclaiming that I would do it. In my defense, since the holidays Little Ms. CC, Mr. F, and I have been playing the game “Who Gets Sick Next?” In trying to get back on track today’s Two Things Tuesday is a simple one – Random Thoughts…
1) Never leave a paint can without the lid properly secured around a toddler. (*Hint, if you do make sure you have nail polish remover handy to clean off your floors.)
2) If you have a daughter, start with headbands right out of the womb. If not you run the risk of her NEVER wanting to wear them no matter how cute they are. This may be my biggest regret in life.
When I was young, and even into my not-so-young-but-still-living-at-home days my mom and I would start baking Christmas cookies the day after Thanksgiving. My mom would then continue baking cookies every weekend right up until Christmas. Even though she baked cookies for weeks, it was our tradition to make sugar cookies together after the Thanksgiving mess was clean. Even as I write these words I am transported back to my childhood kitchen; my mom on one side of the counter, me pulling up my stool on the other side of the counter; rolling, cutting, sneaking dough. My mom and I didn’t always have the easiest relationship, but we always put whatever else might be going on aside to make our cookies. Not long ago I realized this was our tradition. It wasn’t formal, it wasn’t set in culture or religion, it was just ours.
Today Little Ms. CC and I were on the floor making Christmas ornaments. I was reminiscing to Mr. F about my cookie tradition. I mentioned how I wanted to start a tradition with the mini, but a cookie baking tradition while trying to cut out extraneous sugar wasn’t going to work. Mr. F looked at us, and the pile of glitter around us, and said “You already have a tradition, making Christmas ornaments.” And that is how to create a tradition.
I hope when Little Ms. CC is older she will want to always spend a cozy Sunday afternoon making ornaments with me. I hope when she is my age she will look back, remembering every little detail about our tradition, and want to form a tradition with her family.
I need to admit I have been a having a tiny pity party for myself lately. Mr. F is away a lot with his coaching job, so it’s just me and Little Ms. CC most nights, which is fun until she is in bed and it’s just me cleaning up…always cleaning up. On top of all that solo night time cleaning, I’ve been hearing about my friends’ upcoming vacations – a safari in Kenya, a ski vacation in France; not to mention my friend that MOVED to Italy last month. So yup, pity party + envy. To try and get myself out of this funk, today I am focusing on the positive side of the “negatives”.
1) Cleaning up the nightly Little Ms. CC messes leaves may not seem like it has a positive side, but it does. The messes mean I have this adorable, spunky, expressive kiddo. It’s a little reminder of how life changes and how lucky I am to be a mom.
2) So what I can’t pick up and take off to France for a ski trip? I don’t ski anyway. When the initial envy wears off I can step back and see the bigger picture. These friends that are telling me about their vacations are my best friends from high school, HIGH SCHOOL. I’m well removed from my high school years. These girls and I still talk nearly daily and still all get together at least once a year. They are true friends. We have come through weddings, kids, moves, rough patches, and more, and we still make each other a priority.
It’s not always easy to find the good when you are in a funk, but when you do it certainly turns your mood around. Pardon me while I go peek in on my adorable mess-maker, then call my friends to tell them I love them.
I’m well aware of the “Terrible Twos” and the “Threenager” stage, but the “Suddenly Picky” stage we are going through now is new to me. Last week Little Ms. CC would eat anything we threw on her tray, this week she turns her head away and says “Nah!” I’m not caving! (I say this over and over to myself during mealtime, over, and over). I know she still likes some of her staples, so I figured I work from there and see if I could come up with a healthy, toddler friendly food. BAM – Healthy Toddler Tots were created today! Little Ms. CC approved; Mr. F may have had a few too.
Find the RECIPE HERE!
Today was one of those days. Little Ms. CC spiked a fever the other day and got sent home from baby school. (Yup, we call daycare baby school). Mr. F stayed home with the sick kid yesterday and got tons of sick kid cuddles. I stayed home with the sick kid today. She is on the mend, so I got limited cuddles and lots of crankiness.
It’s days like today, days where the cries vastly outnumber the smiles, days where nothing seems to work to make Little Ms. CC happy, days where I simply feel defeated, that I question how I got here. Mr. F and I had settled into a pretty comfortable married with no kids life. We both started to pursue our passions, went to Happy Hour, woke up late on the weekends. We thought we had it good.
But, I’ll tell you. This kid knows how to play it. Between the crying fits and the throwing – food, toys, my cellphone, anything within reach, we played. Like really played. Little Ms. CC would run around the kitchen table while I “chased,” then we would reverse and she would chase me. After the most frustrating bath, we sat in the glider in her room, turned down the lights, and glided back and forth while she nuzzled up to me. I rested my head on her’s and soaked up every minute. I stopped questioning how I got here. I am just thankful I AM here.
We thought we had it good, now I know we have it great.
Happy SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY! I’m definitely not a Black Friday kind of girl, but I am all aboard the support local and shop small train; so much so I could be the conductor. I love discovering small businesses that have original designs and products. Below are some of my favorites, check them out, support them, spread the word!
Fledge Co., WeeStructed, Tribe Is Alive, Hope & Sundries, Christina’s Limited, Support Local
Mr. F is in full swing of his new coaching job. (I cannot wait to write a post about how PROUD I am of my husband for following his dream and showing our mini that you CAN live your dreams, but that is for another time). With this new coaching gig I have been taking on more of the domestic duty. Let me tell you, I love Little Ms. CC more than pizza, chocolate, and gangsta rap… but it has been a haul these past few weeks. Not having as much me time has helped me love the “little things” more. So, today’s Two Things Tuesday is about two things I do in order to pamper myself in this hectic Fall/Winter we are having.
1) At Home Manicure – Now this may not seem like pampering to everyone. It’s not really about the manicure; it’s about how I feel after. With my nails done I feel more put together, dare I say a bit more classy. I simply feel better. Plus, since I don’t have the time for the salon, if I totally f up my non-dominate hand I can blame it on Little Ms. CC!
– I’m currently rocking a winter favorite, Stylenomics by Essie.
2) Late for a Latte – This is one is less pampering more self-preservation. Every once in while – not more than once a week, usually… I take a little detour on my way to pick up the mini. I stop at the BEST local coffee place and get myself a latte with whole milk, gasp! It’s ten minutes of pure, beautiful, quiet bliss.
The question is, what do you do to pamper yourself on this crazy parenting journey?
As I keep working and adding to J. Splendid, I want to build a local page to act as a resource for local parents. I already have a list of local places we love that I will be adding, but I wanted to start with a BANG! So, look down for a sneak peek of some of the sheer greatness that is Drop Anchor Photography, then head over to the Local page for the full feature.
For some reason it has taken me a while to sit down and write this post. I had to first understand why I wasn’t ready, then I had to realize I was ready to handle anything that might come my way in the crazy often judgmental parenting world we live in. (Please understand I’m not trying to fuel the parental judgement with that comment, just that I am not naive to the fact it exists.)
Yes, Mr. F and I are unexpected parents. We were not planning on having our mini. What that doesn’t mean is that she was unwanted. When I tell people we weren’t planning on having Little Ms. CC a look of shock/concern/are-you-nuts-to-admit-that comes over their faces. It’s a look I don’t fully understand. I am not saying she is a mistake. I am not saying she is the result of a slip up. I AM NOT SAYING SHE IS UNWANTED.
We are not alone. We are unexpected parents due to medical reasons, due to surprise lapses in family planning, due to any variety of reasons.
We are awestruck by our mini. We are loving in a way we never knew was possible because of our mini. We are growing because of our mini.
Bottom line – there are parents that have tried for years, there are parents that didn’t prevent, but didn’t try, there are parents that were surprised, but we are all PARENTS. Learning as we go, doing the best we can. We are all in the trenches. So please understand I am not ashamed that my mini was unexpected, I’m right there parenting with you.